Question:

“… How do you know they are not over me yet? …

Jones’ Answer:

… Because they have not Tried to get over you yet! …”

‘Do or Do Not … There IS Try’

… Jedi Master Yoda said …

… “Do or Do Not … There is No Try” …

… Sorry Jedi Master … 

… There IS ‘Try’ …

A Good Thing

… Most people do not break up a Happy Home or Happy Relationship because everything was great! …

… HECK! Many people do not STAY TOGETHER because they have a Happy Home or a Happy Relationship …

… In those cases … they usually stay together because: 1) of Familiarity with Misery, i.e. they have simply forgotten that they are living beneath their Privilege to have a Peaceful, Loving Life, 2) they have a lot of Pride and they do not want anyone to know that they could not make it with the other person who EVERYONE told them not to ‘get with’ in the first place, 3) they simply have a Fear of Being Alone (“I AM with you always …”, Matthew 28:20), or 4) they have a Fear of Starting Over … 

… But that is a whole ‘nother Earlism for a whole ‘nother day! …

… So the fact that y’all broke up is usually …

… A Good Thing …

… (Proverbs 18:22, MSG) …

Getting Over YOU

… I will usually tell people …

… “You know that they are not ‘Over You Yet’?” …

… They will ask me, in reply …

… “How do you know?” …

… I will respond …

… “Because they HAVE NOT TRIED to get over you yet” …

I’m Out!

… Most people will just leave a Relationship …

… Without bothering to actually take the time to Heal …

… Emotionally …

… Or possibly Spiritually … 

… (if that was EVER an element of the Relationship in the first place) …

… They just leave in abject frustration … 

… Declaring “I AM OUT!” … OR “I CANT TAKE THIS NO MORE!” … 

… However … They never bother to try … 

… To Get Over the other person …

… And all that went into the Relationship …

Actually … Two Ways

… The ONLY way to actually get over another person … 

… Particularly one that you had an emotional or God forbid a physical bond with … 

… Actually there are Two Ways … 

… Both involve Trying …

… The First Way …

… Sheer Will Power …

… The Human Will or Free Will is a powerful thing …

… A person can ‘Power Up’ their will and actually get PAST … Not Over … But PAST a bad Relationship …

… I.e. you can power up your Free Will and leave a person in the distant past … 

… In your memory, heart, & soul … 

… However … In that Powered Up Human Will Instance … 

… You are actually not ‘Over’ the person … 

… You just compartmentalized the past … 

… OR … 

… “Shoved a Ticking Clock into a Drawer” … 

… See Earlism #10 Drop a Clock into a Drawer …

… The Second Way …

… ACTUALLY The Only Way …

… Is to … 

… Pray for Healing … 

… You have to ask God for Forgiveness for all of the STUFF and OLD BAGGAGE that you dragged into that Relationship … 

… The BAGGAGE that helped to MESS EVERYTHING UP … 

… THEN … 

… Forgive the other person for hurting you … 

… THEN … 

… Forgive yourself … 

… AND …

… Wait for Healing … 

… Before you Move On … 

… And Into a New Relationship …

The Only Way

… So …

… They (or You) can Power Up Your Free Will …

… And Get ‘Past’ it …

… But that Aint Over IT! …

… OR …

… They (or You) can … 

… Go to God … 

… Ask for Healing … 

… THEN … 

… Forgive and Release from your debt … 

… The Other Person … 

… For All they Did to you … 

… THEN … 

… Confess all the stuff you did … 

… THEN … 

… Do Not Allow Yourself To Live in Regret … 

… It Happened … 

… It is Over … 

… It Is Most Likely A Good Thing … 

… ALSO … 

… Do Not Declare God’s Will was done … 

… When It ‘Was Not’ His Will that you start dating or marry that person in the first place! … 

… THEN … 

… Forgive yourself for not listening to all of those who tried to warn you against entering into the Relationship … 

… For not listening to that Still, Small Voice inside that Tried to Warn You against entering into the Relationship …

… AND … 

… For NOT LEAVING A LONG TIME AGO … 

… THEN … 

… Get Healed of EVERYTHING Old & New … 

… AND … 

… Most Importantly … 

… Get A True Vision of who you Are supposed To Be With … 

… AFTER … 

… AND ONLY AFTER …

… You And …

… The New One … 

… ARE Both Healed & Fully Ready for a Healthy Relationship … 

… When That Happens … 

… You Will Not Have to Look Far … 

… Just Rest … 

… And Let Him Bring ‘One of the Ones’ (Future Earlism #33 The Ones) … 

… The READY One … 

… To You … 

… And You to Them … (Genesis 2:21-23, NLT) … 

They Never Tried

… So Trust Me …

… They AINT over you yet …

… As Little Comfort as that may … 

… Or Even Should … 

… Bring you …

… Why Not? …

… And How Do I Know? …

… Because they Never Tried …

… To Get Over You …