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… Who’s Dream Are You Chasing?
“… Can you tell the difference? …
… between chasing …
… A God Dream …
… and …
… The American Dream …”
Who’s Dream Are You Chasing?
Most people have almost been conditioned to pursue what we call “The American Dream.”
The American Dream – includes some version of … ‘apple pie, hot dogs, baseball & football, a house, a white picket fence, 2.5 kids, and some kind of pet … (I am not much of a dog person)’ … That is a fine dream for many. Some spend their entire lives pursuing it.
But has anyone ever asked themselves:
“Who INSPIRED The American Dream?”
Joseph said in the Bible, when discussing Dreams with a couple of imprisoned Egyptian officials, that: “Dreams are God’s Business (Genesis 40:8, NLT).” This means that God is the Progenitor of and Inspiration for all Kingdom Dreams.
Those are the Dreams … the ONLY Dreams … that Believers should be Chasing and Pursuing with their whole heart and with all of their strength (Jeremiah 29:13, MSG). Frankly we should be Pursuing A God Dream with every fiber of our being and with every aspect of our lives.
A warning: Pursing A God Dream will also cost you your entire life.
And it will definitely contradict … in every way … The American Dream …
But if you want to end up in the Place that God Inspired & Infused into your very being.
The Place that God Revealed to you via an Inescapable Dream or Vision.
One which was Imparted into your Heart & Spirit.
The Place & Thing that you have been Internally Pushed to arrive at and to attain, no matter the cost.
Then you must seek to attain A God Dream with your whole heart.
More often than not … you will Pursue A God Dream though many difficulties. However and unfortunately, it is at this juncture where many people may decide to pull off of the road and take a break from pursuing A God Dream.
At times, during these respites, so many people begin to confuse and conflate A God Dream … with their original … yet not at all God Inspired version of … what is actually … The American Dream …
But for those who can learn to separate the two …
Those who decide that the ONLY DREAM for me is A God Dream …
No matter the Cost (Jeremiah 29:13, MSG) …
Will … just like Joseph …
Leave behind your pursuit of the uninspired, albeit a fine dream for some, version of The American Dream …
And if you keep going …
You will Attain the fully Manifested Version of …
A God Dream!
Joseph had … A God Dream
Dreams are God’s Business
Only God can Interpret … A God Dream
What does the verse of Scripture that says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will Give you the Desires of your Heart (Psalms 37:4)”, actually mean?
Ellen’s Explanation …
Well the first time that I ever heard that passage, it was explained to me by my mother. She did this weird thing with her arms as she kind of waved them up and down like one of those ‘Air Gumby – Giant Balloon’ things that they pump air into. They are placed outside of Auto Dealerships and Fast Food Restaurants in order to attract attention.
She went on to explain that the word “Delight” meant ‘to laugh and make yourself happy.’ She also said that it meant to ‘make yourself pliable’, like the Gumby Balloon. Ellen’s explanation may have been a bit off base, or at least partially complete. However, she may have been on to something regarding the true context of the passage.
I wrote about what I believed the verse meant in my book Enoch’s Journey. In short, I said that it was similar to the manner in which someone might get a syringe and inject flavor, such as garlic seasoning into a turkey prior to baking it. I essentially said that
“God Gives … and then He Gives … you the Desires of your heart.”
These Desires are actually His Desires for you. They are also a part of His overarching Purpose and Plan for your Life. However, He can only Infuse them into your heart and Spirit, via Holy Spirit Syringe, much like injecting flavor into a turkey, if you are in a malleable, connected, submitted, and penetrable state regarding your Relationship with God.
John (15:1,4,5,&7) basically describes this seamless Infusion process. It tells us that if we remain Intimately Connected to God, such that He can continuously pour His Word into our hearts and Spirit, never allowing ourselves to become disconnected by the weights, cares of this world, worries, and sins which do so easily break that connection (Hebrews 12:1). If we remain connected to God and Intimately acquainted with His Holy Spirit, as well as, remain Submissive to His Leading and Lordship over every area of our lives and entire being, then He can, like the blood running through the veins in our bodies, Continuously Infuse His Revelation and Word into us.
The Oxford Dictionary’s second and third definitions of the word Infused, intimates that the word means to permeate. Essentially the second definition alludes to steeping tea. If you soak a tea bag in hot water, the color and flavor will Infuse itself into the water such that the water no longer tastes like water. Rather it begins to taste like the tea leaves that are in the bag. Essentially you are changing the properties of the water by Infusing flavor into it.
The third definition gets a bit more specific when it discusses the process of Infusion. It equates the process to that which occurs when a nurse in a hospital begins to inject something into your veins. I have been in the hospital for a few extended stays. They had to connect me to the Intravenous (IV) drip bag. When I had to do my daily walks around the floor of the hospital, I had to take the bag, the pole that it was on, the machine that it ran through monitoring the drip rate, and the entire mechanism, which they were kind enough to place on wheels for easy transport, with me when I walked. The point was that I needed the fluids that were in the bag, which they changed regularly, as it ran out, so that I was constantly receiving, through my veins, the liquid that was in the bag, in an uninterrupted fashion.
Delight & Give
Like so many things, the King James version of the Bible does a poor job of translating Hebrew, Chaldean, and Greek into English. However, because I was raised during the era where that version was the primary Bible translation of choice for most churches, I remember most passages of scripture in King James English. So, I will make a run at translating Psalms (37:4, EAJ Translation), as it has been Infused into me.
First, the word Delight is a verb that is stated in the Imperative tense. It means to “do it right now!” Kind of like when your mother told you to clean up your room … and you said “ok”, having no actual intention of interrupting the TV program that you were watching, in order to begin the cleaning process. Then she would YELL, “NOW!”
That is stating something in the Imperative tense. The word Delight, as used in Psalms (37:4) means to basically make yourself submissive to what is being or is about to be Infused or injected into you. Furthermore, it means to leave the means of Infusion in there or intimately connected to you, such that it can constantly flow into you. I am reminded of the aforementioned IV drip or even intimacy. The idea that supports the word Delight is to allow yourself to become initially connected to a source and then to never disconnect. You have to remain connected and “let it constantly flow.”
Now the word or verb Give in Psalms (37:4, EAJ Translation) is stated in the Future tense. Meaning, beginning right now and continuing on into the Future, until God, the God who has no beginning and no ending, stops the flow, He will Give you the Desires of your heart (Revelation 1:8 & 22:13). In other words, He will Infuse or inject those Desires into you, as continuously as you allow Him to, as He describes in John (15:1,4,5,&7).
This means that as long as you remain Intimately Connected to God, He will remain Intimately Connected to you.
This will allow God to constantly and consistently pour His Word and Revelation into you. Meaning, into your heart and Spirit, in perpetuity. Thus, God will Give or Infuse into you like a tea bag in hot water, the Desires of your heart.
But He does not stop at the point of Infusion. What good would that do? You would walk around with all of these Desires all trapped up inside of you. The tea is no good unless you drink it!
So, He not only Births all of these Desires in your heart. Desires which you become completely consumed with, until you see them Manifested. That is called progressing toward your Purpose. Or the Journey toward the fulfillment of your Purpose and Calling via taking the required Steps on your Journey to “Was Not.”
God Gives … And then He Gives or Manifests the Desires of your heart.
This occurs as long as you remain on the Journey with Him. And as long as you obey the words written in Psalms and John. Those words which imperatively and emphatically declare that you make yourself submissive, receptive, and make your heart permeable to God, such that He can Intimately Fellowship with you, while continually pouring His Word and His Revelation & Plans into you. And remember, you must not disconnect the IV! Take it with you wherever you go!
You must unceasingly and unwaveringly “Delight yourself in the Lord (Psalms 37:4 & 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17).”
After a while, at the appointed time, the Holy Spirit will Give or Show or Reveal to you the Desires, which He has been continuously Infusing into your Heart. Now they are REALLY His Desires … but He makes us think that they are OUR DESIRES. He does this so we might pursue Him until we see them Manifest. However, He does not stop here either.
First He Gives … And then He Gives!
After He Infuses His Desires and Plans into your heart, He will Manifest them. Now there are a couple of provisos associated with the Physical Manifestation of the Desires of your heart. But the good part is that you have been doing them all along, while remaining Intimately connected to the Holy Spirit.
All you have to do now, is remain submissive such that He can enter, engage, and continually pour His Word into your heart. Remember, you must remain constantly connected to Him for this to work. Finally, you have to take Him with you everywhere you go!
That’s it! No trick questions on this test! It may take a LONG TIME to see those Desires of your heart Manifest (Habakkuk 2:3). But if you DO NOT DISCONNECT from God and remain pliable such that He can constantly Pour into you. Then the Vision will speak for itself and Manifest. In other Words:
First He Gives … And then He Gives!
Hezekiah: The Incomparable King
King Hezekiah serves as a perfect example to illustrate this point (2 Kings 18-20). The Bible says that King Hezekiah of Judah did what was pleasing to the Lord and trusted in the God of Israel. In fact, the Bible says that he was incomparable in this regard. There was never a King like Hezekiah, either before his time as King. Nor After his time as King (2 Kings 18:1-7).
Simply stated, he remained continuously connected to His God. Such that God could Pour and Infuse Instructions, Plans, Purpose, and Directions into the heart of the King of Judah. They had an intimately connected relationship.
Hezekiah did many things as King including rededicating and consecrating the Temple (2 Chronicles 29-31). He served as King for twenty-nine years in total. But one day King Hezekiah of Judah, around the middle of his Reign heard from his contemporary, the Prophet Isaiah. God told Hezekiah to “get your house in order, brotha (2 Kings 20 & Isaiah 38).” Or “clean your room … NOW!”
God sent the Prophet Isaiah to King Hezekiah to inform him that he would become ill and die of that sickness. He was not going to recover. But Hezekiah had the Desires of the Lord Infused into His Heart.
He reminded God that He had ALWAYS done what Pleased God. Hezekiah had remained completely and constantly connected to God. Such that God’s Words and Desires remained intimately connected to and were constantly flowing from God, into the heart and Spirit of King Hezekiah as a result of their intractable relationship (Psalms 37:4 & John 15:1,4,5,&7).
So, when King Hezekiah was literally presented with a “Life or Death” scenario, he expressed the Desires of his heart. These were Desires that God had long ago Infused into King Hezekiah via their intimate relationship. But King Hezekiah thought, as we do, that they were his.
King Hezekiah knew that he was not ready to die yet. The people of Judah still needed The Incomparable King to serve as their Leader for many years to come. Hezekiah knew this in his heart. So, when the Prophet Isaiah delivered God’s message regarding King Hezekiah’s demise, he was heartbroken and wept bitterly, after reminding God how faithfully he had served Him and walked with Him (2 Kings 20:2-3).
Now, as for the Prophet Isaiah, who was also intimately connected to God, he did his job and left. He delivered the Word regarding King Hezekiah’s demise to the King and proceeded to leave the Palace in Jerusalem.
… But he did not get far …
He barely got to the courtyard of the Palace before God “stirred the tea!” God told the Prophet Isaiah, “get back in there and deliver a new message to the King!” Now, it was not actually new! Alpha and Omega was simply executing His Master Plan!
God told Isaiah to go back in there and tell King Hezekiah that He has heard his tears and more specifically, He has heard King Hezekiah’s Heart. Along with the Desires contained therein. Desires Infused in there by God for such a time as this. He told Isaiah to go back into the Palace, to the King and tell him that in three days he will get up out of his “death bed”, go to the Temple in Jerusalem, and he would live and not die!
In fact, he would live for another fifteen years!
God told Isaiah the Prophet to tell King Hezekiah to make an Ointment out of figs such that your servants can spread the ointment on the boil that was the root of his terminal illness. However, King Hezekiah was not done working with God. He wanted PROOF of Manifestation!
God gave King Hezekiah a desire to live beyond this current illness and proclamation of his death. He knew that the Plans that God had for him were not completed yet. He knew that he could not die and leave his Judean people in a state where the Assyrians were potentially on the verge of overrunning them and killing them all. God had Given King Hezekiah a Desire, deeply Infused into his heart, that said that he and the people of Judah were to be the head and not the tail (Deuteronomy 28:13). And that they would not fall to any more assaults from marauding nations. Rather King Hezekiah would live to see peace remain in Judah during the remaining tenure of his Reign and lifetime (2 Kings 20).
So, King Hezekiah asked God for a sign that would demonstrate that he would indeed, as the Lord had said to him through the Prophet Isaiah, get up out of his death bed in three days and go to the Temple of the Lord in Jerusalem. God said to him that He could either make the sundial go ten steps forward or ten steps backward to prove to King Hezekiah that he would indeed recover from his illness in three days, go to the Temple, and live for the next fifteen years serving as the King of Judah.
Well, King Hezekiah, knowing that there is nothing too hard for God, said that making the shadow on the sundial clock move forward ten steps or degrees, is much too easy (Genesis 18:14 & Jeremiah 32:27)! He wanted God to make the sundial, thus time, thus the Sun itself, move backward by ten steps or degrees!
God Did …
King Hezekiah Did …
King Hezekiah saw the Manifestation of the Desires that were Infused into his heart via the intimate and intractable relationship that he constantly shared with his God.
… is a dangerous thing to have …”
Because people usually try to and believe that they have justifiable ‘Right’ to use, inflict, and/or impose their personal version of ‘Right’ on everyone else’s life and sensibilities.
This Earlism was developed because many people, specifically young women who I have spoken with through the years, have strained relationships with their father’s or have been abandoned or even abused by a father or other (male) adult. They come away from those experiences feeling that, “because I am RIGHT, and ‘he’ had No Right to do ‘that’ to me, I can therefore force him to admit his wrongs committed against me. Now this idea is based solely based on their perception of events, memories, and interpretations of motives and the actions of the other party. Many times, reality differs significantly from perception.
Then they choose to take offense and remain embittered. Or they may choose to continue to walk in unforgiveness toward that person.
“… What is ‘Right’ for you …
… is probably not ‘Right’ for everyone else …
… in fact …
… it may not even be ‘Right’ for you …”
I usually wear thick sweaters with high collars, to teach my classes, particularly when it is ninety degrees outside. However, I also wear them when it is cold outside. Currently, I am still slightly anemic.
Thus, while it is cool inside to others and a refreshing respite from the hot day outside, even in the buildings where the air conditioner does not work as well, it is freezing cold in most of those buildings to me. I am willing to endure the slight discomfort of the heat outside while wearing my sweaters, in exchange, I am warm enough inside to teach or whatever I am doing in there on campus.
So, it is ‘Right’ for me to wear a sweater, even on the days when it is ‘Right’ for all others have on shorts and short sleeves.
“It’s nothing …
… ‘til it’s something … “
If you want to take a very quick, just for fun, and likely not very Scientifically and/or Psychologically accurate Personality Typology test, like MBTI.
Then, see the links & directions toward the bottom of the page …
However, if you REALLY want to know your MBTI Personality Type.
And you want to know which Biblical Leader or Leaders share your MBTI Personality Type.
Check out the Fun & Psychologically accurate book:
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Discover your (MBTI) Personality Type
I have taken both …
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This insightful book discusses specific Biblical leaders and how their personal challenges as well as their personality types effect and compare to those challenges and personality types of you and your friends. It aims to serve as a guide book by providing practical applications for your individual life’s Journey by providing insights into the lives of others who have overcome challenges and achieved success.
“… Nobody cares what “you” think! …”
… Why Not? …
No one wants or NEEDS to hear or know what YOU think or “feel” about their problems …
This is the ultimate Counseling, Advising, & Skilled People Helping Proverbial Truth:
Only tell people what Has Been Factually Revealed to you about them, regarding the issues, situations, and concerns being discussed.
Get your-‘SELF’ out of the entire conversation.
All of the people who you are helping need to and want to know are the things that are Factually Correct and/or ‘What God Knows (2 Kings 4:27).’
Not what you “feel” or personally think about their issue, concern, or problem.
Another Earlism could be: Ear not Mouth
Nobody wants your advice …
Meaning, the advice that comes from your mouth, thoughts, emotions, predispositions, & “feelings” …
They only want your ear …
Learn to listen actively & attentively.
… Because …
…It Ain’t About You! …”
It is never about you!
It is ONLY about them …
And what NEEDS to be spoken into their lives …
It is only about THEIR PROBLEMS …
John 21:20-22 (NCV)
Peter turned and saw that the follower Jesus loved was walking behind them.
(This was the follower who had leaned against Jesus at the supper and had said, “Lord, who will turn against you?”)
When Peter saw him behind them, he asked Jesus, “Lord, what about him?”
Jesus answered, “If I want him to live until I come back, that is not your business. You follow me.”
“… If you …
… played the Club …
… played the Diamond …
… played the Spade …
… played the Heart …
… and you lost every hand …
… Then it ain’t the cards …”
For example, if you have been married more times than Elizabeth Taylor, and you end up divorced every time …
… Then it ain’t the husbands! You are in desperate need of A LOT of introspection, soul-searching, humility, & Healing …
This is a Long Form Blog Post that I will Publish in Four Parts.
A True Fish Tale
I am going to tell you a True Fish Tale. This one, unlike all of the other fishermen who tell these tales is … one hundred percent (100%) true! No really! Now, who can account for memory? After all, it was a few years ago …
It started when I went on my first Tuna Charter Fishing Trip. It was a great trip. All of my fishing brothers got sea sick, as usual with this group. Although they swear they never get sea sick … except for every time. The Atlantic Ocean was very rough that morning, in their defense.
So, by the time the first bites began to come in I was the only one who was upright and not below in the cabin with his head hanging over a bucket. I caught one Mahi Mahi. The First Mate and I had to drag the other guys out of bed to catch some other fish including a huge Mackerel.
The One That Should Have Never Gotten Away
But this story is about The One That Should Never Have Gotten Away. During that trip I had another, much larger Mahi Mahi on the line. This was ocean fishing and without getting into the intricacies of fishing, we were not fishing “wrecks.” Thus we were not just dragging the fish up off of the bottom of the ocean, while they were feeding near the sunken debris which provides cover for the fish that we were trying to catch.
This was “back trolling” for larger ocean fish who feed on passing schools of smaller fish. Relative to the type of fishing that we were doing, I was supposed to “keep this fish down”, as opposed to just setting the hook and reeling the fish up from the bottom, as is done when wreck fishing.
When you are trying to “keep a fish down”, you are essentially trying to ensure that you reel in enough slack in the line, while the fish, of course, tries to get away or get off of your hook. The fish does this by either swimming really quickly toward the boat and occasionally jumping in the air. Or they try to swim away from the boat, which makes it easier to keep the line tight, ensuring no slack develops in the fishing line. When there is slack in the line, it is easier for a jumping fish to “throw the hook.” This is where the fish instinctively attempts to dislodge the hook from its mouth and swim away. It is actually a game of precision.
When reeling the fish in, you are trying not to “horse” the fish, by reeling too hard because you can just pull the hook from the fish. However, you are also trying not to give the fish too much leeway or “drag” so the fish can create slack and “throw the hook.” You accomplish this by reeling just hard enough to ensure that the fish remains underwater as much as possible, while it tires itself out. Then you can easily reel it in to the boat. You use the water as counter pressure in order to tire the fish out. If it jumps, it has a greater chance of “throwing the hook” and getting away.
This one got away …
But it was not supposed to get away …
The First Mate kept telling me to “keep it down”, “keep the slack out”, “don’t let it run on you”, and “don’t let it jump.” But “if it jumps, cut the slack and keep the line tight.”
Prior to that Tuna Fishing trip, most recently I had fished wrecks. As such, I could just set the hook and reel them in. This made it a lot easier to keep the line tight. And when the fish jumped it was because I had brought it up from the bottom and was bringing it into the boat. However, those are typically much smaller fish. These are large fish and they fight like crazy, as well they should, not to get caught.
Again, this one got away …
But it should not have gotten away …
At least not according to me. I caught a nice sized Mahi Mahi, but I lost a much larger one. I let the proverbial “one that got away”, run at the boat … and then jump … and then throw the hook. I was not able to keep the fish down under the water and use the water to create counter pressure on the fish. I tried to reel the fish, too often, as if I was just trying to drag it in from the bottom of the ocean.
Different situations …
Call for different tactics …
Elisha & The Shunemite Woman
I told that little 100% True Fish Tale because it reminded me of a situation that I have recently encountered and a Bible Story that became quite instructive for me as it pertained to me finding my way out of a confusing situation and into a positive conclusion. Now if that above fish tale was not true, I would have caught the larger fish and at worse I would have missed the smaller Mahi Mahi. Then again, this story is actually about The One That Did Not Get Away …
In the Bible Book of Second Kings Chapter four, it tells a story of a woman that Elisha the Prophet met when he passed through the town of Shunem which was located in the territory allotted to the Children of Issachar (2 Kings 4:8-37, NLT). When the itinerate Prophet Elisha passed through Shunem, this wealthy woman urged him to come to her home and have something to eat. She must have been an excellent cook and a gracious hostess, because every subsequent trip through Shunem, Elisha and his servant Gehazi would stop at her home to have something to eat.
The lady said to her husband that she knew that this man was a Holy Man of God or a Prophet of God. She suggested to her husband that they should build him a room on the roof of their home, which was a “thing” back in that day. They built the spare bedroom on the roof of the house. She also suggested putting a lamp, table, and bed in the room for him to be able to not only eat at their home but also so the Man of God could have a place to rest when he passed through town. A home away from home. The husband agreed and so they did.